SELFISH,SELFISHNESS

SELFISH................................................... ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

self-centered person will never consider OTHERS needs. ------------------------- Selfish people are emotional pirates. They crave for your attention, but don’t give you any. Selfish people can push your buttons and make you feel like pulling out their hair—don’t do it. A self-absorbed person may be so caught up in there self that they forget to consider your thoughts or feelings attention the self-absorbed person craves. Selfish people always ask for favors, but they squirm out of helping you when you need their help. Narcissists are not only selfish and self-absorbed, but also lack feelings of sympathy and purposely use others. They are harder to deal with than the average selfish person.---------------------------------------

• Everyone is selfish to a certain extent. While normal levels of self-love, self-value and self-confidence are important for people to function well, there is a line between these characteristics and being a little too self-absorbed, arrogant or just plain narcissistic.

Synonyms of selfishness egocentricity, egocentrism, egoism, egomania, egotism, narcissism, navel-gazing, self-absorption, self-centeredness, self-concern, self-interest, self-involvement, self-preoccupation,self-regard, selfness Words Related to selfishness complacence, complacency, conceit, conceitedness, ego, pomposity, pompousness, pride,pridefulness, self-admiration, self-conceit, self-esteem, self-importance, self-indulgence, self-love, self-partiality, self-respect, self-satisfaction, self-sufficiency, smugness, vaingloriousness,vainglory, vainness, vanity self-assumption, self-consequence, self-content, self-contentment, self-glorification

When someone says, "You are being selfish," there is no doubt that you have just been criticized. The message from your critic is clear: You are paying too much attention to your own wants, needs, and well-being, and not enough attention to others. Selfish behavior is often described as immoral. A good person thinks of others first. It is more blessed to give than to receive. According to some experts, selfish behavior is not only immoral, but it is also bad for your own psychological well-being…………………………………………….. …………………………….

research supports the Chinese proverb that ends, "If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else."

is selfishness (thinking of yourself first) good or bad?

So the deeper question, is "Who benefits from selfishness?"

someone who engages in emotional manipulation to get what he or she wants develops a reputation as someone not worth dealing with, someone to shun and avoid.

Reputation is no trivial thing, because happiness is very unlikely to be achieved alone, in isolation from the rest of society.

"neutral selfishness." Neutral selfishness includes looking after your own well-being in ways that do not directly and substantially involve other people. If I take five minutes to brush my teeth to avoid the ill effects of tooth and gum disease, this is a form of neutral selfishness. In looking after my dental hygiene, I am neither taking away from someone's well-being nor adding to it. The same would be true if I take 10 minutes every morning to meditate.

I know there are people who might nit-pick about whether there are really any neutral selfish behaviors. how much help can I be to others if I don't look after my own physical and psychological health first? Taking care of myself puts me in a better position to do things that benefit others. Therefore, some selfish behaviors are nearly neutral; they do not immediately help or harm others. They may represent time taken away from directly helping others, but they also put you in better condition to help others.

"good selfishness," which benefits both ourselves and other people. good selfishness as a two-sided transaction, an exchange where two people willingly part with something in order to gain something they value. Because both people are winning something they want,

a darker answer that explicitly condemns self-interest in favor of advancing the interests of other people . dark examples where talk of the virtues of sacrifice and service is a trick to exploit and manipulate others:

Those who would manipulate us into doing their dirty work give us a false choice between bad selfishness (gaining at the expense of others) and selfless sacrifice (doing good for others at a cost to you). Given only those choices, it's no wonder that our moral sensibilities vote for the latter. A slightly different version of this false choice pops up when people say that good relationships are based on compromises, where my partner and I take turns sacrificing for each other. ("I'll agree to be miserable going shopping with you if you agree to be miserable watching the football game with me.") Why not practice good selfishness, which benefits both ourselves and others?

bad selfishness (gaining at the expense of others) and selfless sacrifice (doing good for others at a cost to you). Given only those choices, it's no wonder that our moral sensibilities vote for the latter.

You perform an act of selfishness in your career and you think to yourself “Hey I just won.” Then you go on a holiday for a while, come back to your career and realize that everything has changed. Your act of selfishness secretly got noticed behind the scenes causing your appearance of being a leader to be shattered into a thousand pieces. A restructure hits while you’re away and you realize that all your supporters are gone. Then, all you’re left with is your reputation. That reputation means nothing when you’re known for being selfish.

“The selfish ones end up marching behind an army of the blind thinking negative thoughts and blaming “The Company” for their misfortunes” You’re responsible for your misfortunes and they grow from your own selfishness.

Selfishness: How to Stop Being Selfish, Being selfish doesn’t get you as far as you’d think.

the energy we put out comes back to us. Our friends tend to mirror our inner personalities and our lives can actually be hollow while seemingly full from the shallow outsider’s perspective.

not be ethnocentric. To be a good listener, you have to let go of your own beliefs—even for just a moment in time. You can’t be thinking of your next words or move—or that your own thoughts are better and more worthwhile. Listening to the people around us, really listening, promotes positive self-growth—and closer, less selfish relationships.

When you’re a partner in a marriage or a parent, you learn about the necessity of putting someone else’s needs before your own. Sometimes, doing what another person needs rather than what you want surprisingly leads to your own happiness as well

Put yourself in their shoes. The next time you judge someone or act unkindly remember that life exists outside your own.

you are not more important than anyone else. You might be good at your job, pretty or just plain talented, but so is everyone else in their own way.

People that always get what they want don’t exist, but people that always try to get what they want do—and those people are probably jerks. other people notice—and remember—your bad behavior

being selfish can be like any other bad habit—hard to quit and often a cycle that you don’t even want to be in. Checking your poor attitude and using sheer will to change is often easier, and more worthwhile, than you think.

So you’ve been selfish in the past or someone else close to you has. Happiness means moving on—and truly moving forward means letting go of the past. You can change; others can too; and learning to let go . crucial to plunging into a more caring way of life.

“If you think only of yourself, if you forget the rights and well-being of others, or, worse still, if you exploit others, ultimately you will lose. You will have no friends who will show concern for your well-being. Moreover, if a tragedy befalls you, instead of feeling concerned, others might even secretly rejoice.

SELFISH..............